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“Cry and you will cry alone. Smile and the world will smile with you...”

27 October 2021, Astou Seck
“Cry and you will cry alone. Smile and the world will smile with you...”

The whole world? It's probably overkill, but a smile can be powerful. A warm smile can attract friends to the wearer, put others at ease, and even help them feel better. But such a smile is not just any smile. Here's how to develop an authentic, communicative smile that can transform a date, seal an agreement and attract the goodwill of those around you.

Be serene by smiling.

Most people are uncomfortable with their smiles. They don't think they have a pretty smile, or they think their smile is unprofessional or makes them vulnerable. It's true that a smile can be a sign of vulnerability, but that's what makes it powerful. No matter how professional, smart, or in control, you want to look serious (angry, or frowning), but people often respond better to a smile.

A smile is always nice to see. You don't have to be nervous to be afraid about the beauty or appearance of your smile. Trust your smile; it will make you look amazing.

A smile is professional. Smiling at work or during professional activities will not make you look less professional. On the contrary, a smile will make you more human and make you look more accessible. People will appreciate that you recognize their value and the quality of work through your smile.

A smile will make you more real. If you are afraid of looking vulnerable when you smile, realize that it is precisely this sense of vulnerability that a smile indicates that makes it so powerful. You will open up to others and people will respond to you better than if you are serious or frozen. Plus, a smile that accompanies a well-established personality will keep people from stepping on your nameplates.

Make your smile look natural.

While you can smile when you're feeling bad, angry, or upset, a natural smile is much more difficult to fake. In fact, barely 10% of the population is able to control it.

A genuine smile is detectable by others because it is accompanied by a general glow, your eyes also smile, and there is a slight wrinkling in the outer parts of the lower eyelid which tightens, and you also exhibit behavior reassuring that makes the viewer feel more comfortable in your presence.

Think positive thoughts. The easiest way to have a big smile is to be happy. You can be happy at any time, and yet not everyone is happy; when you are not, you can think positive thoughts. Think of something or someone you love (maybe the person standing in front of you when you smile), something you just love to do, a joke you find funny, an ironic remark. When you feel dejected, a smile will express you, even if you have an artificial smile to begin with.

Be authentic. Rely on your sincere feelings, not just artificial rationalizations. When you are faced with a person or situation in which you feel ambivalent and are unsure of which foot to dance on, go for your smiley side instead - find something in your heart that could be positive about that person. or about the situation, and use it to develop your smile.

Love people and your life. It is much easier to display a genuine, friendly smile when you love what you do, when you love the people around you, and when you love humanity in general. Be grateful for all of this, and you'll find that your smiles come a lot more naturally.

Take life on the safe side. Our busy life can sometimes make us too serious. See life as an adventure, be kind to yourself and watch the children play. Taking life on the bright side will make a smile come to your lips much more naturally.

Smile with your eyes.

When we laugh, we think of the mouth, but the eyes play a big role in making you look warm and a genuine smile. A genuine smile will naturally be seen in the eyes (called a Duchenne smile). It is common to hear a person say "his eyes are smiling", or say: "She didn't mean it; she was smiling, but not her eyes". Eyes are essential for a truly warm smile. Your eyes shine, sparkle, and reflect your happiness. While it's hard to pretend if you don't actually feel it, you can try this exercise:

To feel like you have laughing eyes, stand in front of a mirror and practice smiling, but focus exclusively on your eyes. It may help to cover the lower part of your face with a piece of paper. Play around with this exercise a bit, and you'll find that you are able to make your mouth smile without your eyes reflecting it, and conversely, that you are able to smile with your eyes only. When you smile with your eyes, remember what it feels like, which muscles are working, and how. When you work out, you will learn how to smile on command based on your memory of your muscles and your feelings.

Practice your smile.

It is okay to train yourself to smile. By doing this you will increase your self-confidence, improve your sense of well-being, and you will learn which of your smiles looks best on you.

Look at pictures of yourself smiling, with your mouth closed, your mouth open, from different angles. Which of these images will bring out your smile the best? Which one will best show who you are on your best day? Which of your smiles will be the most natural, the more “you”?

Find this photo and focus on what your face is doing. Then practice in front of the mirror until you achieve the ideal smile. Keep practicing and pay attention to the sensations you get from that smile, to be able to reproduce it without looking at yourself in a mirror. Soon it would become second nature and you will find that you will be more photogenic in your next photos.

If you want to improve your smile, look at photos of smiles that you think are pleasing. Also, remember that you are beautiful / handsome (inside and out). Your smile will only bring out the best in you!

Note the difference between a smile and a broad smile. A wide smile uncovers a lot more teeth and isn't necessarily flattering on everyone, although for some people they can make you looking cute. If you're prone to forcing a wide smile and it doesn't help your appearance, try showing only your top teeth when you smile.

When you expose your teeth, pressing your tongue behind them will make the small gaps less visible.

Practice smiling at strangers. Make quick eye contact with a person, and smile. As you do this, think about happy things (it will help you choose an attractive person when you start). Do not choose people with sunglasses, you must be able to see his eyes. Not everyone would report you around, but take note of your feeling when this happens!

Maintain good oral hygiene.

The thing that can make you afraid to smile is worrying about having something stuck between your teeth, or having bad breath. Eliminate these sources of worry by taking active steps to keep your mouth clean and fresh.

Brush your teeth and tongue regularly, take dental floss with you wherever you go so you can clean your teeth after meals, and have a breath freshener on you at all times (natural or commercial).

Visit your dentist regularly for a routine visit and cleaning of your teeth, as well as to discuss options for straightening your teeth, etc., if this applies to you. When you smile, people will inevitably look at your mouth; so take into account these considerations that will help you make a better impression, and, more importantly, a healthy mouth will give you even more confidence in your smile.

If your teeth are stained, think about your lifestyle habits that are causing it and try to minimize the impact of habits such as smoking or drinking too much red wine, coffee, soft drinks, etc.

Keep your lips in great shape to avoid chapping.

Deal with bad breath. If it's superficial, brushing and breath fresheners should be sufficient. If this doesn't work, it could be a sign of an underlying health problem; go see your doctor for advice.

Expect smiling to be difficult in certain situations

Smiling on demand can be difficult, whether for a photo, or in difficult situations. This is because you are aware that there are no real good reasons to smile. In these situations, the smile should come from the smiles that you have stored in your memory or by thinking of a good joke in your head.

For a photo, you will have to smile 20% more than in normal situations.

And smile wide and show the top row of your teeth.

Enjoy the many benefits of a smile.

To make you want to smile, it will help you a lot to know all the benefits that a smile will bring to your day. The following benefits will tend to make you lean towards sharing a smile with other people throughout the day:

Smiles improve your appearance. Smiling is a cost-effective way to change the way you look. All you need to do is think about how you feel about one person making your face and another smiling at you. Which of the two tends to look better?

Smiles make things better and say a lot more than words could. If you've gone wrong, said something unpleasant, feel lost or lonely, or are down on your spirits, a smile can restore your balance. He lets people know that you are ready to open up to them and that you are happy to make amends when needed.

Smiles create a climate of trust. A smile is a great way to establish a mutual sense of being on the same level as others, whether it's one-on-one or in front of a group during a presentation. The smile says, “I'm fine, you're fine, and we are going to enjoy each other's company.”

Smiles make you feel good. Even if you have a bit of the blues, insert some happy thoughts into your mind and just add that smile. It tricks your mind into making you feel better, since endorphins are released to reduce physical or emotional stress.

Smiles help people feel good. A smile with an open mouth is visible from further away than a frown, offering a reassuring and sympathetic image to people. And seeing a smile makes people feel better, far and near.

Wrinkles look better when they are smile lines rather than gloomy lines. Mark Twain once said, “Wrinkles should just be the mark of smiles.” Seen this way, smiles are an indication of your overall character, which becomes more and more visible as you get older!

Smiling is a good long-term indicator of the fruits of a happier life. It correlates with health, happiness, friends, success, and a longer lifespan.

Advice.

Never pretend to smile! Smile only when necessary, otherwise you may end up with an extremely dismal and gloomy face.

A fake smile makes you look hypocritical, nervous, or even dangerous. So don't try to artificially reproduce a smile without first being in a mood that lends itself to smiling. Body language reflects our innermost feelings, and it is often easier to change our attitudes than it is to try to communicate emotions that we don't really feel, for example, when you are very happy it will show on your lips. If you try to give a big smile when someone looks at you, you will look like a monster. So keep a small smile and not a big one.

Make sure you don't have a piece of spinach or anything stuck between your teeth, or you may leave a bad impression. Go to the bathroom after eating brush your teeth. This is especially true if you know that your teeth have a nasty habit of retaining food particles.

There aren't any scientific studies telling how many muscles are used when you head. It would be better to simply accept that a beautiful smile is much better and that the long term benefits are worth it!
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